# The Solitude Paradox: Why Our Increased Connectivity Is Leading to Greater Isolation The podcast titled [Screens and Solitude](https://www.thedeeplife.com/podcasts/episodes/ep-336-on-screens-and-solitude/) by Cal Newport was particularly fascinating as it discussed the social phenomena known as the loneliness epidemic and how levels of solitude and isolation have evolved over the past 20 years, especially in the last six or seven. Newport highlights how COVID exacerbated this issue, causing people to become more comfortable with solitude and happy in their own company. However, sociology posits that humans need a sense of being needed within their community and among friends. Many people are drifting away from this, maintaining social connections through texts, emails, and social media interactions. Newport argues that these digital interactions do not replace the connectedness forged through personal interaction. He also mentions the lack of time spent with others. While a text message or social media interaction is quick and gives an illusion of connection, it lacks the depth of personal engagement. Newport contends that dedicating time to connect with others creates value in relationships and fosters a sense of neededness for both parties involved. This increasing loneliness and isolation have led to a dependence on devices as substitutes for real connections. This raises questions about the impact on community leadership, volunteering, and engagement. As people become more isolated, they may feel less inclined to engage with their communities, having satisfied their need for connection through the illusion of devices. These digital distractions, based around attention grabbing algorithms, are custom-made for users, ensuring maximum engagement but further distancing them from real-world interactions. If this trend continues, it presents a significant challenge for society. The critical question is how to reverse this trend. How can we encourage people to reconnect personally rather than relying on digital interactions? This is indeed a pressing issue to ponder. An old saying is that it “takes a village to raise a child”. Sadly, we seem to be seeing the disappearance of villages within the meaning community connectedness.